Thea's Thinkings: Advice to little me

Advice to little me

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Hi!

I've been doing a lot of soul searching lately and along the way I'm met bumps in the road, some really big bumps, mountain sized bumps...

but I've come over the hill, and I've learnt a lot of lessons.

Although some times have been really hard, I actually wouldn't change them (... which she immediately regrets saying). I mean of course in a world of candy floss and fairies I would have rathered some things in life hadn't happened, but in this real world where sometimes things can hurt I recognise that we can't always avoid these things, no matter how painful they are. These things are bound to happen at some point, and I'm sure in my future (I hope distant future) they might happen again, but hopefully I, and you have learnt something from those experiences that can at least prepare us for those events, and help us out on a day-to-day basis too.

Am I rambling?

Well anyway, as I was saying... as ideal as it sounds to fix my past, instead I'd like to impart some lessons to the little me. The girl who was scared of every social situation, the girl who lacked confidence and was forever seeking acceptance, and spent years hiding in her room with very few friends, and without realising was losing the only friends she had, and the girl who was always beating herself up for her "failures". To that girl I want to say:

Goofy me (left), and my crazy little sister (right) throwing loser signs before it was cool.

1. Step back, calm down and don't panic!- People really don't judge you on a moment by moment basis, it doesn't work that way. We are so wrapped up in our own doings we rarely even notice the people around us, and if we do the thoughts gone in a hard beat. So don't feel so nervous and go to that party. You'll enjoy yourself, and it's really not all as scary as you think. And if you do panic, that's OK - take a moment, relax, take deep breathes, find a quiet pace and when you're ready and not before go back, don't run away, you'll be OK.

2. Don't compare yourself to other people. There are always going to be people who achieve higher than you or lower than you, but when you focus on them, you forget about yourself. Take pride in your achievements however small they are, and don't consider yourself a failure. You don't have to get it right all the time, if you mess up don't beat yourself up - learn from the experience, you'll come about better from it, promise.

3. Spend time on yourself. You worry to much. Enjoying yourself, treating yourself, taking time to work on you - it's not selfish, it's essential! Eat more cake, takes baths, and have the last piece of chocolate once in a while. You'll find if you show yourself a little love you'll have even more love to give.

4. Take time off. I can't stress this one enough. I don't mean just have lazy days, or days you know you should do something but you can't face it today. Really take it off! If you feel like you're just not up for it, that's OK! But don't spend the whole day thinking about that thing you need to do because by the end of the day you won't feel anymore relaxed. If you can't do it, put it in your mind that your just not going to do it today - put "DAY OFF" in the diary, and do something else you've been neglecting. Have a bubble bath and read your book, or get your guitar out and learn some news songs, or sit on the couch and watch a movie - but make it a choice - CHOOSE to do it, and you'll be amazed how more refreshed you'll feel.

5. Have more confidence in yourself and don't give up just because the odds are 1 in a million. If those are the odds then surely it's worth trying for? You're much more able than you give yourself credit for. Whatever you want to be go for it, because no matter where you end up you'll be so proud of how far you came, and you will have enjoyed the experience so much! Go for it - I'm routing for you.

I could go on, but for now I think little me has had enough advice for one day.
It's always painful to look back on life and wish you'd done things differently, but if you hadn't done things the way you did you wouldn't have learnt those valuable lessons that have moulded you into the person you are today!

If you could give your younger self any advice what would it be?

Thanks for stopping by!
xx

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Thea

Thea is an Academic, a Crafter and a Musician from the West coast of Wales. She documents her trials and tribualtions as she wanders the maze of challenges that life presents, all while travelling the world and pursuing her dreams.