Pros & Cons of surgery recovery

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I've had a lot of readers coming over to read my surgery and recovery posts so thank you so much to everyone who's reading and supporting me during my journey to health and fitness. It really boosts my spirits!

Since I'm progressing well I thought I'd take a look back at the past 5 months to remind myself of the challenges and the surprising positives I've experienced during my recovery.


As I always like to get the negatives out of the way we'll do these in reverse:


Cons


Waiting - Oh boy the waiting! There's a lot of it, and it can be so trying. The waiting to see progress, waiting to be able to move again, waiting on people you love to help you... plenty of time to work on patience!


Limited movement - Waiting leads us straight into this one. I had no idea how immobile I was guna be. It probably makes sense to everyone else but I hadn't been told anything about this so it was quite a shock. You definitely get a change in perspective, I could relate to others with a disability like never before.


Needing help - Ah to ask for help! I'm a pretty independent person, I'm comfortable in my own company but suddenly needing so much help was something I'd really not anticipated. I definitely had to learn to laugh at myself and disconnect my independence from my pride and dignity. Having a sibling help you put on underwear as an adult is a seriously weird experience, but you definitely get a good sense of humour!


Things take so much longer - Patience...serious patience...after the first two weeks I finally had enough movement that with some assistance from a nifty little picker and ooh about 10 minutes I could get my socks on! Woohoo. You can imagine how much longer everything took, but on the bright side I had some independence back!


Pain - That's probably the hardest thing. Pain affects all the others, and it was hard to go from being in pain to worse. You have this silly idea that the surgery makes it go away pretty quickly but I'm still working on this one. It's better though!



Pros

Waiting - I've always considered myself a patient person but going through this really tested my limits. I've learnt a lot about letting go, not needing to be in control and letting things run their course. It wasn't easy but I feel like I'm coming out with more than just a fixed hip, I'm coming out with some life skills too.

Maximum reflection - Although waiting has it's harder moments, it also gives you a lot of time to reflect. On what brought you here, on where the future my lead, and what you're really hoping to achieve. Its very rare you have time to sit and reflect without feeling like you should be doing something else. But being immobile well I really had that time, and I'm thankful for it because my goals are now more clear than they ever were.


Asking for help - This really taught me that it was OK to rely on other people more and that no one should feel guilty for expecting reasonable behaviour or kindness from other people. I've always done my best to be in the background and make sure everyone else's needs are taken care of. I've learnt a lot about letting go of that responsibility and guilt. That's been great for me. I think I'll always put other people first, but it doesn't feel so bad to put myself first when I need to.


Things become so much more rewarding - Everything that was once a little achievement is suddenly a massive achievement. Because it takes so much longer to get anything done every little achievement whether it was finally getting my second sock on, showering myself or figuring out just the right angle that I can lean down without bending to get the charger in a socket...all those things when I could do it really boosted my day and brought a smile to my face. Especially as I'm got more movement and needed less help, the milestones really were rewarding to reach and I can't wait for all those still to come.

Pain relief - With pain there comes pain relief! Not one to promote drugs at all, I can't deny those were some impressive pain killers. When they kicked in boy did they kick in haha! but also as the pain subsided with time that was great. I wouldn't want anyone to feel pain but as it reduced over time and I realised it was temporary it was great to feel it leave my body because with every week it meant something was improving.



OK I sort of cheated there, but I wanted to remind myself that in every moment I've found it hard or trying, I've also found some sort of value and reward however small. Being in a situation where you're forced to take time off also enables you to loosen the shackles of responsibility and guilt when you do so.


I've learnt a lot from having time off - that if it doesn't get done today it's ok, if I take time out, even only a little, to read or relax the work-life ratio can really be shifted, and that being self-reliant can be great but knowing people love you and you can rely on them too is even better.


I'm glad to be back on my feet but in a weird way I'm glad life forced me to face myself for a short period, I hope those lessons always stay with me.


Have you ever had to face yourself, or has an experience made you see something from a different perspective and force you to grow a little? I'd love to know about your experiences in the comments.


Until next time, be happy be healthy!


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  1. The waiting is such a nightmare but then later when the pain kicks in, I wish I was waiting again lol. I hope you have a speedy recovery.

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    1. haha I couldn't agree more Jo! Thanks for the kind wishes x

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