5 Steps I use to Improve my Self-Esteem | Confident Me A&E

Hi guys. Welcome to the very first article in a brand new Guest Blog Series:
Confident Me, A&E | Acceptance & Empowerment

I’ve been working on this series together for some time now and I’m so excited to share with you the thoughts, advice and experience of all these incredible bloggers, influencers and small business owners.
The Confident Me Clinic will be open every Monday with each writer in this series bringing to you different topics, perspectives and ways to reflect on life. 

The aim of the series is to show mutual support for all of us, in finding acceptance in who we are, pride in our accomplishments and the confidence to empower ourselves and each other to strive to reach our goals and improve on our quality of life.
I’m so happy to introduce our very first writer for Confident Me, A&E – Nadine from hellotigerface.
Nadine is a self confessed self-help junkie, living in the East Midlands, sharing on her blog her life, personal experiences and lessons she's learned. Be sure to show her some love on Twitter with the hashtag #ConfidentMeAandE.
So without further ado, it’s over to you Nadine…


In the last couple of years, I've dealt with a breakup, betrayal, loneliness, depression and changes in my household. My self-esteem had hit an all-time low! I felt unworthy, incapable and incompetent. I was unable to communicate with friends, I felt insanely paranoid at my job and I couldn’t date anyone at the time because I was failing to let anyone in. I was completely isolated and it eventually caused me to be more withdrawn and I was no longer going out at weekends and enjoying things that people in their 20s should be doing!
However, I have slowly started to come back to life, draw a line under it and start over and I have done this by sticking to some simple steps. So, without further delay, here are the 5 steps I use to improve my self-esteem:

Keep a journal
I have a notebook for everything – I even write my blog posts down before I type them. It’s highly therapeutic and you can rant, scribble, pour your heart out without reflecting this onto anyone else! I’m really into Morning Pages at the minute which I try and do first thing in the morning. Don’t think just write and don’t worry about how your journal looks. It can be whatever you want it to be! Always on your phone? Try Diaro – that’s how I started.

Be the leading star in your reality show
I love reality TV – it’s my guilty pleasure and every show has a leading star. Like Kim Kardashian – she takes centre stage and that’s what you should do! Letting your emotions run your life will never lead to a positive outcome. Start living and don’t let anything stop you!

I know how it feels being unable to get outside because you feel down and out. However, once you are outside, you start feeling more refreshed. It really helps me think more clearly and plus you’re being more active which is a daily bonus!

Smile more
This can be hard at first but start by watching comedy films or something truly uplifting. For me it was Peter Kay’s Car Share and Bridesmaids! My aim at first was to smile at least 3 times a day. It then increased to 5 and most recently I’m exceeding that every day. Smiling is an easy and free mood enhancer – start using it!

Stop judging yourself… and others
Being negative about certain areas of your life will not help you. I’m always negative about my weight and I judge myself and what I wear daily. I have also (ashamedly) judged others in the past too. Learning to minimise this, will not only bring a positive mindset but will also make you more pleasant to be around.
I hope these tips will help you along the way but just remember, how you feel now is not permanent. If you make some positive changes in your life, you will see positive outcomes. Just takes a little while.

If you’d like to take part in #ConfidentMeAandE be sure to contact me on theasthinkings@gmail.com with your name, blog, socialmedia or small business details, and your idea for a post. I’d love to have you on board!

See you next week for another article from the Confident Me Clinic!

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